Live-in relationships might seem the norm now but there was a time when they were considered extremely taboo. So much so, that couples looking to try them out were shamed in society and weren’t allowed to rent homes.The idea that gained legal recognition in the country later has now evolved into an alternative to marriage. In the name of keeping it simple and not needing a stamp of approval, couples are preferring to practice live-in relationships over tying the knot. But which is better?
Are live-in relationships better than marriage?
Well, according to spiritual leader Sadhguru, live-in relationships are not better. In an interview, he said that the difference between a live-in relationship and marriage is the commitment, one lacks it while the other promises it.As per him, living in an uncommitted relationship together is not a good thing. When there is intimacy there must also be respect for the other person’s body, mind and everything else in the relationship. “When you say I am not committed to you, whenever I feel like it I will walk out. There is no sense of value and respect for the other person, isn’t it?” he said.
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Difference between marriage and a live-in relationship
As per Sadhguru, marriage is nature’s trick to make humans reproduce.
“A man is opposite to a woman only on the physiological level. In no other way are they opposite,” he said.Marriage is a concept created by nature for the perpetuation of race and thus humans have institutionalised their sexuality. Since they reproduce and bring children up, it is better to do so in a committed atmosphere.“If you just look at these physical needs as what they are, they won’t be with you for too long. They are strong during a certain part of your life.
After that they fade away,” he added. However, since marriage has been created as this to-do in your life, without it something always seems missing. “You must learn to look beyond the brainwashing that society has done to you, whichever society it is. Only then will your intelligence function.
“But the institution of marriage is not completely neglectable. The “so-called rebellious” people now think of marriage as bondage and in the name of freedom, they avoid it.According to Sadhguru, even couples in a relationship fight with each other. Marriage as an institution does not play a special role in it. That is rather caused by one’s own incompleteness and immaturity. “Uncommitted relationships can cause an enormous amount of insecurity in people. This is what has happened in the West. Relationships have become so painful because they are constantly uncertain”Moreover, human emotions are a thing of wonder and can go off track if not channelised.
Thus, marriage as an institution not only keeps one on the right track but also keeps their insecurities at bay.
What to choose?
“There is no system which is good in the world because every system can be exploited and misused. At the same time, every system can be used to live wonderfully. What we do out of it is the whole thing,” said Sadhguru.Thus, whether in a live-in relationship or marriage what matters is the stability of the mind. Marriage provides you with economic, social, physical and emotional stability. It gives a base to your life. Choosing it or not is up to the individual but “most people need it.”
