“Since a majority of romantic connections happen online, people seek to make sense of the confusing dating encounters they experience, and labels help them define it,” says Parth Gupta, behavioural and clinical psychologist. Giving labels helps people feel validated. Ruchi Ruuh, relationship counsellor & therapist, shares, “Dating terminologies give younger people a language to communicate complex feelings and thoughts.
It helps people say, ‘Oh, it’s not just me, it’s something that other people also experience.’”
These terminologies reflect how young adults, instead of relying on superficial labels, prefer terms that capture the authenticity and values they share with their partners. The focus has shifted from traditional markers of romance to compatibility, and the morals partners share in everyday life
Bhakti Joshi, trauma-focused therapist
THE UPDATED GLOSSARY
Freak matchingFinding out you and a date share the same niche quirks or unconventional interests, and bonding over it.Usage: “We freak matched over astrology and seashell collection.”Monkey branchingA form of micro-cheating where someone lines up a new romantic interest before ending their current relationship, making the transition feel seamless.
Usage: “She was monkey branching with him for quite some time because she wanted to end it with her boyfriend.”WildfloweringA dating approach where people avoid rigid expectations, explore connections at their own pace, and resist defining relationships with labels.Usage: “I am wildflowering, dating casually and refusing to put a label on anything.”Yap trappingWhen your date won’t stop talking about themselves, effectively trapping you in a one-sided conversation.Usage: “I was yap trapped with him for two hours, and he didn’t bother asking me a single question.”Contra datingDating with no intention of building a long-term relationship.Usage: “I came out of a long-term relationship recently so for now I am looking to just contra date.”ChoremanceBuilding a romantic connection through doing chores or mundane tasks together.Usage: “They bonded over grocery runs.
Pure choremance energy.”
Funny terms can help ease pain
Funny names can make uncomfortable conversations feel less heavy, and that can actually help people speak up. Gupta says, “Humour is one of the easiest ways people talk about things. It can also function as a defence mechanism. If something feels awkward or painful, turning it into a joke can help people create a bit of emotional distance and stay in control. Saying ‘I got yap-trapped’ is a lighter way of saying, ‘I felt invisible and unheard.
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Labels can also be misleading. People try to fit their relationship into the label, instead of using the label to understand the relationship. A catchy term can make people jump to conclusions about themselves or the person they’re dating, without actually having honest conversations
–Parth Gupta, behavioural and clinical psychologist
New labels, old behaviours
According to experts, most dating trends aren’t new behaviours at all. Gupta says, “People have always mistaken chemistry for compatibility, gotten stuck in one-sided conversations, felt ignored, and built closeness through small daily acts. The difference is that earlier, we would describe these things in long sentences. Now, one word does the job. The behaviour isn’t new. The speed at which we name it, meme it, and identify with it is new.
” Adding to this, Ruuh shares, “Now we see a lot of dating happening online. The language had to evolve because dating itself has evolved.”
Modern dating has created unique challenges and situations which didn’t exist earlier. New vocabulary is needed to define these behaviours and patterns, as old school labels don’t do them much justice
–Ruchi Ruuh, relationship counsellor & therapist
