7 things women find attractive in a man, reveals dating expert

Forget the six-pack. The chiseled jaw. The flashy car parked out front. When it comes to attraction, these things matter the least! There are far more factors that make a man attractive. And no, none of them will put a hole in your bank account! Blaine Anderson, a matchmaker and dating coach who has helped thousands of men find their perfect match, says it’s often the overlooked factors that make the biggest impression. What are they? Let’s take a look.

Yes, it’s old-school. But in a Instagram video, the dating expert confirms that it really does the job. When you walk on the outside of the sidewalk, you are placing yourself between her and the traffic, which means you are protecting her. This protective nature is a hell of a lot attractive.

This may sound odd. But according to Anderson, this really works. Nobody fully understands why, but it just does! When you roll up your sleeves, it silently says, “I’m serious” and “I mean business.” So keep doing it.

This world needs more kindness. And being polite to the people around you is a superpower. Women notice that. How you treat the server, the janitor, the Uber driver—they are watching. Always. Being warm and respectful says a lot about your character.

There is nothing more attractive than a well-groomed man. You don’t have to spend thousands of dollars, but a simple trim or a fresh haircut suggests that you make an effort. It hints that self-care is important to you. It signals, “I took time for myself today.” This is a magnetic trait.

Your scent is doing more work than you know! You walk into a room, and if you smell nice, that’s attractive. Your fragrance will linger in her memory longer than you think. So invest in a good fragrance. It does not have to be expensive, but choose one with your signature scent.

If you are trying to woo a woman, put in the effort. Plan dates. Make that your responsibility. “Leadership—so attractive,” Anderson mentions. When you pick the restaurant, suggest the activity, or have a plan, your initiative will be noticed. You are the man with a plan, not the one who makes your partner take on all the mental load.

Now, ask any woman you know, and she will tell you that men who listen are indeed perfect. In a world of people waiting for their turn to talk, listening is a superpower. Let her talk about her day. Listen. Take notes (in your head). Ask follow-up questions. Let her know that her conversation matters and that you enjoy it. Do it genuinely.